Don’t Blame
All feelings are produced inside an individual so logically that circumstances, behaviour of others and events should have no control over them. But this is far from the truth. We blame instead of taking control and allow the blame game to take over.
Stop Blaming.
Take charge and act maturely.
Set GOALS and use positive emotions to guide yourself
Yes! Set GOALS and use your emotions creatively. Do you remember elders scolding you for your mistakes and bad behaviour? Were they really angry or were they using emotional intelligence to correct your behaviour? Set GOALS! Decide which emotion is best suited to achieve a desired result.
Use these three simple steps every day to start becoming a master of your emotions. Go for it!
Blocks to Emotional Intelligence
The most common blocks to emotional intelligence are:
Prejudice
All prejudice, narrow-mindedness, favouritism, intolerance, block our ability to understand our own emotions as well as the emotions of others. Put a STOP to prejudice and a GO to tolerance and progress.
Low Self-Esteem
A little black boy in an all-white class in the days of discrimination stood up and said… “GOD DIDN’T MAKE JUNK!”. Yes! All of us are unique uncut sparkling diamonds and we must believe in ourselves and in the beauty of life.
Over Sentimental Behaviour
Some people ‘cry over spilt milk’ for hours instead of going to the market and bringing some more milk.
Sentiments have a very important role in human relationships but, when allowed to run wild, these damage the relationships.
Grow up!
Use your sentiments wisely….
Make a crying child laugh!
Make a sad person happy!
Make the lonely feel wanted!
There is so much each one of us can do if always remember the quote….
“I cried because I had no shoes until, upon the road, I saw a man who had no feet.”
Founder and Director at Healing Hours Optimally – H2O
